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Post by six on Jan 24, 2011 13:27:12 GMT -6
Poor Stewie. But I really think he will be healthy because you are doing everything possible to make him so, Lori. *hugs*
Athena, I hope her butt gets evicted sooner rather than later. Or put in a white coat and a padded cell. What a loon!
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Post by athena167 on Jan 24, 2011 13:31:48 GMT -6
i feel like anime is the only place where i can escape to without having to deal with politics.....after all, i am ignorant and an idiot for my beliefs. I am constantly called a republican when I get upset often times for saying "please dont play the politic card....this topic has nothing to do with politics" or get offended when someone decides to throw random political insults back and forth for no other reason than to be offensive. There was a time in this country when people acknowledged a difference in opinion and accepted it and damn it all if they still couldnt be friends despite that. Now adays it is just a slaughter. I try my hardest not to speak politics on my facebook status because i dont want to offend or upset my friends that have a difference in opinion because I respect my friends. I wish everyone else showed respect to their friends as much as i show to them. Not the case, this shit makes me want to log off of facebook and live like a hermit. How many times can someone be insulted for their beliefs before they become a total recluse to prevent any pain inflicted onto them. I feel so alone in the world. Everyone thinks that they are right and anyone who has a differing opinion of them is wrong as if there is no other way in the world. maybe i should stop caring. I am constantly told to shut up, maybe thats what i should do. Maybe i would be a lot happier
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Post by Unger69 on Jan 24, 2011 21:56:24 GMT -6
I've been really sick these last few days. I shouldn't be going to class but I am. I can't afford to get behind. I have a lot of homework I'm already behind on, and I have lots of stuff to do for these next few weeks.
Now. Add in what has been going on here, and I have a feeling I'm going to snap. So please, IF THERE ARE ANY ISSUES LET ME KNOW!
ACTION WILL BE TAKEN.
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Post by athena167 on Jan 25, 2011 4:14:23 GMT -6
My friend who I'm going up to Seattle with for SakuraCon taking FOREVER to get a room. Seriously. It's in April. I have a crap job, I don't know how much the room is going to be and no matter how much I push her she only gets mad at me. I want to room with someone else but I can't I need to earn $200 by the beginning of March and I earn $4 a day. I'm happy I've got some income but I hate this stress... Im sorry!!!! I would try Renton, i used to live there and it is a bit cheaper than downtown and you can catch a bus, the only con though is that its about a half hour away. I will be going to Sakura con as well cosplaying as Nanao, my husband as Ikkaku.....the baby will be going as yachiru, so if you see ikkaku holding a 9 month old Yachiru standing next to Nanao of all people come say hi (that is, if you have any idea who i am talking about)
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Post by athena167 on Jan 25, 2011 16:13:21 GMT -6
I'm sorry if this comes across as a little nasty but I cant help but feel insulted on behalf of the voice acting guests attending Sakura-con that you wouldnt consider a "better name". So J Michael Tatum wont be at Sakura-con, that is a huge let down for me too, but Im not going to throw a tantrum and not go because of it. These people, whether or not they are "big name" voice actors, are still taking the time and money to come out and be a part of the con. If I was one of them, I would be heavily insulted by what you said. Everyone, even the great Vic Mignogna, wasnt very well known once upon a time and look at Vic now! And even if they do come, it doesnt mean you would for sure be put with one of the voice actors, that is probably one of the most sought after jobs at the con and not everyone can get it, especially if you are under 21. I am not trying to be nasty but please think before you say something like that, it can come across as very insulting.
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Post by Baka Neko on Jan 25, 2011 17:41:58 GMT -6
I'm sorry if this comes across as a little nasty but I cant help but feel insulted on behalf of the voice acting guests attending Sakura-con that you wouldnt consider a "better name". So J Michael Tatum wont be at Sakura-con, that is a huge let down for me too, but Im not going to throw a tantrum and not go because of it. These people, whether or not they are "big name" voice actors, are still taking the time and money to come out and be a part of the con. If I was one of them, I would be heavily insulted by what you said. Everyone, even the great Vic Mignogna, wasnt very well known once upon a time and look at Vic now! And even if they do come, it doesnt mean you would for sure be put with one of the voice actors, that is probably one of the most sought after jobs at the con and not everyone can get it, especially if you are under 21. I am not trying to be nasty but please think before you say something like that, it can come across as very insulting. I'm sorry I used the venting thread. I was not meaning that in any way as insulting. And I'm sorry, but I did take what you said as nasty.
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Post by Psy ru on Jan 26, 2011 20:04:34 GMT -6
This issue in my life has been going on the past 3 to 4 months now, but today i had really had enough. So i had this former friend who i do not care anymore about, i do not want to be involved anymore within her life, because she had made some seriously terrible choices to do at age 16, It really sickens me that her birthday is right after mine. But yes she had made some pretty bad choices in her life by being a compulsive liar, messing with drugs and having sex with multiple "bad characters" from my school. But last year since i was at a different school (which I'm trying to transfer back to now) I wasn't fully aware that this problem was going on ever since last year too. But now i feel completely alone and helpless, because everything that shes telling people now is a disgusting lie. Things she tells people constantly is, "Oh guys I'm pregnant~", "oh no never mind i got an abortion/gave it up for adoption", "my dad died and now i have to move back to London and i get all his money", and the list is ever going. And everyone she is telling this to, 75% of them are my friends too (like she never met them till i transfered back) And everything shes telling them is a completely LIE. Once before she told me that, "oh yeah Ive been sorta lying about that" and i told her dude you shouldn't lie- But noo. But my main problem right now is that my closest guy friend Ive know for 11 years is being completely dooped by her. And he keeps telling me oh he knows, about that and this and he says i wont listen to her anymore, But hes being too of a nice guy. He just needs to stop because its really hurting me. Because Ive told everyone that guys shes LYING TO YOU, but one is never listening to me. And the new "lie" is that my former friend she said that she was for real pregnant this time. And since my friend has to be the nice guy, earlier today he told me he felt her belly and felt something move, and said she looked big around the belly also. And I'm like how do you not know if she just had indigestion or something, you've never felt a pre-pregnant belly before, and he just tells me he knows. But know I'm so sick i=of being told this and no one not believing me. After he told me I just wanted to go run after this chick and yell at her, "stop lying to all my closest friends and leave them alone with your lies you compulsive-lying-slut." But obviously i didn't. And Ive been talking about this with my mom since day one about this, and shes friends with my former friends mom. I asked if there's anything you can tell her to bring some justice in this, and shes said she wont unless the timing is at a right time to tell, which i understand. But today i literally fell in tears, i just had enough. No one is believing me and i don't want to lose a very close friend by snapping at him one day. But my mom is being surprisingly sweet about this because she understand. Since my friend is like my mom 2nd son at our house, she said when ever Ive HAD COMPLETELY ENOUGH she said she can talk to him about this issue for me and give him some incite and tell him to get out of it.
I'm really tired of being helpless right now.
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Post by celadith on Jan 26, 2011 20:31:04 GMT -6
My friend who I'm going up to Seattle with for SakuraCon taking FOREVER to get a room. Seriously. It's in April. I have a crap job, I don't know how much the room is going to be and no matter how much I push her she only gets mad at me. I want to room with someone else but I can't I need to earn $200 by the beginning of March and I earn $4 a day. I'm happy I've got some income but I hate this stress... Im sorry!!!! I would try Renton, i used to live there and it is a bit cheaper than downtown and you can catch a bus, the only con though is that its about a half hour away. I will be going to Sakura con as well cosplaying as Nanao, my husband as Ikkaku.....the baby will be going as yachiru, so if you see ikkaku holding a 9 month old Yachiru standing next to Nanao of all people come say hi (that is, if you have any idea who i am talking about) Thanks for the info, but I'm not going now. Mom won't let me because we're so low on cash
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Post by athena167 on Jan 26, 2011 21:01:33 GMT -6
bummer, that sucks im sorry......
As for a pregnant tummy......you really cant feel the baby start kicking until at least half way through the pregnancy. You can feel it on the inside but not on the outside. I know how you feel, my sister in law is the same way. She was "raped" but the behavior patterns afterwards points that it was a total lie. She is a hypochondriac and compulsive liar. They are very difficult to deal with and it is infuriating when everyone believes them. At least she isnt telling lies to the world about you. My sister in law hated me basically because i told her to man up, grow up, and stop being such a using little bitch. So she went all over the place and used the best act and charm to turn many people against me. It was infuriating that people believed her and not me and it was even worse that she got away with it.
5 1/2 years later now people are slowly beginning to see her true colors and she doesnt get away with it anymore. She has used enough people that they know what to expect. She used to use someone and when they got a problem with it, she would move on, well after a while, she started running out of people to use. She put me through the worst time in my entire life and i still have some serious emotional problems as a result. Her parents, who believed her the most for her lies, are now realizing what their daughter really is and because they supported her and defended her unwaveringly the entire time, i must say that it is sweet knowing how they now feel about their daughter and the mistake they made by creating the monster they did.
Within a month of me finding out i was pregnant, she developed Fibromyalgia.....or so she says and is now a painmed junkie. She also is not going to college, dropped out of coast guard bootcamp (which was so sweet to see considering my husband is active duty coast guard) and she is living her life working at a buffet with a ridiculous amount of credit card debt. She also has numerous tickets in the state of Colorado that instead of paying off or renewing the tabs on her car, is going to junk crap she doesnt need and we are waiting for a bench warrant.
Give it time, I gave it the last 5 1/2 years waiting for this. The best revenge is living well and when people told me that when everything was at it's worst i didnt believe them, i wanted her to die. but now that my husband has been active duty for 4 years, has promoted twice in that time, we have a 3 bedroom, 2 bath apartment, every game system known to man (thats more my husband's), awesome pets, a beautiful daughter and have spent 4 years married, a nice truck and i dont have a job, i am a stay at home mom, i know how much she hates us because we are more stable than she. I dont want it to make it sound like we are material people but the truth of the matter is, living well IS the best revenge. I can't imagine anyone in the world that likes to see the person they hate living a better life than they.
This situation will mature you in ways you wont even know until it happens and the best advice i can give you is to calmly walk away for a while, dont make him choose. Making him choose will automatically make him resent you and choose her. Just walk away without a fight, pull back, and when he realizes what a moron he is, he will come back to you. My in laws did.....now we hear from them every way that their daughter, and my husband and my enemy, is screwing up her life. Just wait and relax. Talk to your mom. My mother was my closest friend when I was in high school and she still is. Your mother will always have your best interest in mind, as a mother, I know this is true.
good luck and take it easy, i know it is hard.
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Post by Psy ru on Jan 26, 2011 21:49:24 GMT -6
It's truly nice to know i wasn't the only one with the problem on my shoulders, whether or not if it happened now or 5 1/2 years ago Plus it is nice that to have a friend to give me advice on an issue like this AND know where I'm coming from, so Thanks for being there athena ^_^ My mom is there for me, and she always says to me i know you better than you know yourself sometimes, it makes me laugh and creeped out at the same time, but it indeed helps. And she said everything you said as well. I guess now that i should take a break from everything on this and just wait. I think I can be a big girl and do that ^^ lol
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Post by athena167 on Jan 26, 2011 22:01:33 GMT -6
like i said before, you will so surprised by how much you will grow from this situation. Many people do not believe i am as young as i am because the whole thing with my sister in law has matured me so many years. Good luck and hang in there
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Post by tynged on Jan 26, 2011 22:47:53 GMT -6
Eee. I feel really uncomfortable around compulsive liars. I mean, my family had this whole image to keep up, so even if I came off the worse for it because the stories would be more impressive if it said that I behaved badly, I played along with it because I really thought it didn't matter what the truth was. Whoever tells their story first and loudest, makes reality. If you're caught, keep lying, because people will eventually believe it and leave it alone, and anyone who's pointing out what a lie it is is just rude and spiteful and too unsophisticated to know that everyone lies and everyone is supposed to lie. I had to learn somewhere else, the hard way, that even with tiny lies you always, always get caught in the end. And that even if you didn't it's just better for your health and social life to keep trying for honesty, which is just so much more important and rewarding than everyone makes it out. I never lied big, but I think I could have gone that way. So when I hear about things like a friend's sister's college debate teammate had been a dropout for half a year, so all the money sent to those international debates were essentially stolen and those tournaments were won illegally... and the culprit's stance is, "You're all just jealous that I'm transferring to Harvard!" when she... isn't... and everyone knows it... and can prove it with paperwork and recorded phone calls... Or so many lies from just people I read on forums (nobody here, mind you,) of natural disasters, terminal illnesses, bullying, and plagiarism of their creative works, that turn out to be lies because "I just wanted to test if I was really a good writer!" when the result spoke more to people's gullibility, put more kindly their willingness to invest emotional support or even financial support and trust to a stranger out of the goodness of their hearts, (a trust and goodness that, more likely than not, is now broken, and people they meet in the future who genuinely need help will not get it, because it's been parodied so,) than any skill on the part of the liar. Or stories like Psy ru's and Athena's... it just really bugs me because I feel like I should know how to get the point through and make these liars just not be like that anymore, and I don't, and as it turns out there are so many of them... Odd thing is, in almost all cases I heard the same thing once they were cornered: "Just let me keep my dignity!" I mean, it's a great soap opera line that sounds dramatic and full of virtue but obviously they don't have to think about what any of those words mean, so how on earth do you argue with total idiocy like that?
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Post by dyzzispell on Jan 27, 2011 12:02:15 GMT -6
Yeah, I definitely agree. Honesty is so important to me, that when I catch one person in a lie they've told me, I can't help but think, "You respected our friendship so little that you couldn't even tell me the truth?" I also tend to be suspicious of most anything they say to me after that, because if they lied once, how do I know they won't do it to me again? What kind of friendship is that?? I have a tendency to get a little offended when people treat me like a fool that they can easily deceive. Now granted, it's not like I never lie. I try really hard to be careful about it and not do it. But every so often I say something in an effort to be nice that I don't really mean. I mean, if I always tell people that I don't agree with them whether they asked for my opinion or not, especially if I know it's going to hurt them, then I'm just plain being obnoxious when I should've just not said anything at all. The old saying, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" is quite true. The most recent example, I must confess, is the 12 Days thing that the group was working on. Honest truth is, I didn't want to be a part of it. I don't sing for my husband, so I'm not going to sing for Troy. But I went and said, "Oh sorry, I've been so busy, I just can't do this, but I wish I could have." It was true I was too busy, but not the wishing I could have part. However, there are times that it's hard to know what the right reaction to a caught lie is. For example, my mom's family has spent years making up stories about her. One of the worst was that she was abusing my dad during his Alzheimers. But I was the only family member who went to visit over there regularly, and the truth is that my mother was breaking her back and sacrificing so much just to be able to keep him in the house and not a nursing home. And so was my brother, who still lived there at the time. But lies like that really really hurt, especially when you're not supposed to know about them and therefore can't say anything in defense against them. What's worse is the number of family members that we thought knew my mom and knew she'd never do any such thing, yet they still believed the lies. It really hurts, and we can't do anything to change it. Because even if we told them they were lies, they will still believe what they want to. If there's one thing I've learned, it's that people who are prone to lying assume that everyone else around them lies, too. So they end up not being able to tell what the truth is even if it smacks them in the face. Anyway, I wish I could tell you what the right response to your situation is, but people are going to believe and do what they want. You really do just have to try to be patient and wait till they come around. If they're smart, then they'll catch on eventually.
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Post by tynged on Jan 30, 2011 4:15:04 GMT -6
I don't sing for my husband, so I'm not going to sing for Troy. But Dyzzi, that would've been perfectly understandable Your family situation does sound tricky, though. Sometimes I think that people who play fast and loose with what's really going on, just don't "deserve" to know what's really going on.
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Post by dyzzispell on Jan 30, 2011 11:25:37 GMT -6
But Dyzzi, that would've been perfectly understandable Yes, you are right. I kind of wish I'd realized that sooner.
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