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Post by dyzzispell on Sept 3, 2010 20:54:07 GMT -6
Hey all, I'm feeling a little upset, and I just need somewhere to rant, if you'll allow it. So, in 5 weeks is NY Anime Festival. It might be my last year having a table there, I'm not sure. Anyway, as I've said elsewhere, I was going to share that table with my future sis-in-law who was going to fly in from Missouri. Well, it turns out she's not going to be able to make it. Flights are just too expensive to the NYC area. But this means my husband has to sit with me again. He tells me he doesn't mind and not to worry about it, but I still feel really bad that he's stuck spending his whole weekend somewhere he really doesn't want to be. My husband would do pretty much anything for me, but I just hate feeling like I'm taking advantage of that. So, I'm just really disappointed right now. Also because she and I had so much fun in 2007-2008 when we did the table. She couldn't come last year because she was sick, and now this. Thanks for listening. End of rant. ;D
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Post by avyquinn on Sept 3, 2010 23:13:23 GMT -6
Sorry, darling. If I was closer to you I'd be all over that! On the other hand if your husband says he doesn't mind then you shouldn't feel too bad about letting him help you. Afterall, that's what husbands are for! More than that, that's what love is all about! Sure it's a whole weekend but unless you demanded he drop his buddies to come with you I wouldn't stress too much about it. When my husband does something for me and I say: Oh, you didn't have to do that! He counters with: I know I didn't have to; that's the point. So if he's willing to hang out with you the whole weekend at your table, then awesome. C'est l'amour! <3
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Post by AllyKatt on Sept 4, 2010 21:45:08 GMT -6
boo, i hate when i'm REALLY looking forward to plans and they all fall apart.
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Post by dyzzispell on Sept 4, 2010 22:46:42 GMT -6
Thanks guys. I appreciate the support. Yeah, my husband's really great with stuff like this, but I still feel bad about it. He's very supportive too, and says he expected he'd be coming all along anyway. Still, I wish I had more girl friends...
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Post by avyquinn on Sept 5, 2010 0:24:44 GMT -6
Still, I wish I had more girl friends... Amen, sista.
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Post by dyzzispell on Sept 5, 2010 10:40:31 GMT -6
Hehe yeah, I don't know what it is with me, but I've never been able to keep girl friends for very long. I know that sounds bad, like I'm a mean person or something, but it really seems like people get tired of me easily. Or they move away. ;D My husband has friends he's known since high school that he still sees every week. They have a "guy" night. Funny thing is, what they usually end up doing is RPGing one game or another. Once in a while they'll play Magic, too. One of their wives is a good friend (she was my maid-of-honor), but that girl is so busy, I only get to see her like 4-6 times in a year. It's crazy. But I sometimes wonder what it's like to have close friendships last that long. And now that my future sis-in-law Laura is gone (the one who moved back to Missouri) I don't really have anyone left. Well, there IS my mother-in-law, but I don't get to see her much either. But she can be a lot of fun too. Hopefully I'll see her more often once we sell our place and move closer to her. Funny story - I'm not overly into Twilight. I mean, I read the books because I accompanied Laura to see the first one since she had no one to go with. I thought it was ok. Then the second movie came out and my mom-in-law was REALLY getting into it, so she wanted me to go with her. But she couldn't wait past opening day, so that's when I had to go see it. Never experienced such fandom before. I was so embarassed I wanted to hide. And not just the girls were screaming, but the guys too! One guy kept screaming for Jacob to take his shirt off. ;D Anyway, when it came to the third movie, of course she wanted to go opening day again. Woohoo, what fun. But the real fun came when my husband's cousin came up for a visit, and the three of us went to see it again. So there I was, sitting between his cousin and his mother, and it was like really being between Team Edward and Team Jacob. Those two were so funny to watch - reaching across me and punching each other in the arm and stuff - that they actually made the experience enjoyable. It's going to be tough to go see the last two movies with her though. As time goes on, my interest in Twilight is dying... I don't find Rob Pattinson attractive at all, and I'm old enough to be Jacob's mother, so what do I care?
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Post by avyquinn on Sept 5, 2010 12:21:56 GMT -6
Well first off, Twilight is crap.
That being said.... Why did I read all 4 books (and what's there of Rising Sun) in 5 days? Why was I obsessed with the fandom for a while? Why am I looking forward to the last couple movies? Why have I been to the premiere night of 2/3 of them? I have NO friggen idea.
I saw the first movie and told my husband it was angsty teenage garbage, but he made me watch it with him, and that's when things took off....
The books are substandard - *I* could have written that drivel. They're written for girls - not women. I don't know why I couldn't put them down though. I just wanted to know what would happen next I suppose.
I can't STAND Bella. I don't find Robert Pattinson attractive at all, but something about Edward Cullen is hot. I love to look at Jacob's shirtless torso and I feel like a dirty old woman while I do so. So sue me. XD
My husband put(s) up with my little obsession - which I'll admit has waned with the release of FF13 and the discovery of he who draws us all together. Heh <3 In fact, he went with me to the last two on premiere night and didn't complain at all.... He said he enjoys the movies for what they are and is way more happy seeing that I enjoy them.
As for the topic of girlfriends... I've only ever kept a few good friends around me. When I moved out here to the US I left those girls behind and I haven't really been able to find a friend locally that I get along with. Since I'm a hausfrau I have turned into a bit of an internet reliant hermit. My husband James is fine with being just as hermit-y and although he encourages me to go out and do stuff I feel bad that he has to work all week to support us.
I guess if I harassed some of the girls I know around here more I might be able to make more friends, but I really like being at home watching anime and crocheting and all the other stuff I do in place of socializing.
Then there's my personality. And that's a whole 'nuther bowl of fruit salad.
Although... there is always video chat and stuff available! Maybe we should set up a night where everyone hangs out? I guess that doesn't solve the everyday problem of having everyday friends, but ... I'm in the same boat as you, girlie.
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Post by dyzzispell on Sept 5, 2010 13:17:37 GMT -6
Wow.... I cannot believe how much you sound like ME. ;D I'm sitting here chuckling about much of what you said because I could've written it. Yeah, I did like Twilight at first. And yeah, Edward Cullen was awesome in the first book. (Reminded my of my husband a lot - oh and his name is Mike, btw) While I can't stand looking at Rob Pattinson, I don't mind looking at Taylor Lautner. Although to me it's like looking at a beautiful painting or sculpture - it's not like I dream or fantacize about him. I seem to have a thing for older men, with the exception of a couple my age... I think the reason Bella annoyed me so much was because in the first book, every few words was about Edward's cold stone skin. I got so sick of that. I was glad for him being out of most of book 2, except for the fact that she acted like someone tore her soul out. Seriously, at that age, it comes across as just being a drama queen. And yet I've read all 4 books, own the first 2 movies, been to 2/3 premieres... And yes, I think they were written for girls, not women, too. I do however like the fact that - with the audience of young girls being the target - the books are relatively clean. At least they aren't smutty romance novels. (I personally don't think that smutty books should be marketed to kids so young.) So you're a hausfrau too? ;D Yeah Mike always said that if we could ever manage to afford it, we would. I really like being able to help relieve his stress instead of being just as stressed myself. Makes for a much nicer environment. And yeah, I feel guilty about his working all week, too, while I do whatever. My social life is practically non-existent, but then, that's just the way I've always been, even when I was a teen. Yeah, I go through phases with who I get caught up following. There have been several TV stars, like in NCIS and White Collar. Then it was Vic Mignogna and Chuck Huber, because I heard them in my head for my own characters in my comic. As for Troy, I first heard his voice in Tales of Vesperia, and I practically fell for Yuri. I sooo love Troy's voice. ;D And then came Snow. It's funny, I didn't like Snow's character design at all. But his character - and voice - were so appealing to me that I ended up loving him anyway. AND he's the first and only one from FF13 that I've drawn chibi. And then Excalibur. To be honest, at first I was annoyed that Troy was voicing such a weird character. But as time passed, he grew on me, and hearing several of Troy's renditions of the Excalibur song have changed my mind. But if it weren't for his voice, I'd have little use for Ex. It also helps quite a bit that Troy is such a sweet and funny guy. ^^ I really hope I get to meet him one day. I'm sure that'll throw my inner fangirl into overload... And the video chat - I was thinking of suggesting the same thing - you just got to it first. ^^
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Post by AllyKatt on Sept 5, 2010 15:20:14 GMT -6
more stuff a lot of us seem to have in common female friends in my life have been transitory at best. i have my one "sister" - who is really my best friend since grade school, but she's about a 5hr drive away. locally, i have a small group that i meet up with at the wine bar or karaoke, but this is RECENT! i had to practically force myself to start going out to these places, and talking to people again. several years ago, when i moved back to the very tiny town where i grew up - with my 2 little boys, a soon-to-be-ex-husband a 5hr drive away, living with my dad ... well, i was a TOTAL hermit for years. the first 2-3 years i was back, nobody in town knew i was even here. it's only in the last year that i've ventured out at all, and only in the last few months that it's been frequent. and even then, the group that i hang around with is about 50/50 boys and girls. and i generally prefer hanging out with the guys. if i go out in the daytime, it's usually the comic book shop - where i'm usually the only girl, unless the owner's wife is there or one other guy's wife. LOL. of course, i do my convention thing and have my girlfriends involved with that, and the few girls who i have babysit my boys if i have to go work a show. i guess they count, but that's not the same either. i do the webcam chat thing some - but i don't have a webcam. i just hang out in the chat. we do it via stickam with the voice actor kyle hebert {who is also a friend of mine}. eventually i'll get a cam...
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Post by avyquinn on Sept 5, 2010 15:25:49 GMT -6
AH! We sound like we could all be the best of friends IRL! XD Don't even get me started on the lack of self respect girls have for themselves nowadays. It doesn't help that there is sex and pressure everywhere. It makes me so sad that girls do stuff and degrade themselves just because they think a boy will like them if they do... etc etc. Like sexting?! WTF is that?! I mean I was in some chat rooms when I was a teenager that I shouldn't have been in, but I wasn't texting pics of my nekkidness to kids in school!!! Ugh. Disgusting. :/ I actually agree with you when you say you're glad the novels are clean. I read FF.net for smut with characters I know and love. Some writers there are just as good than the original authors! I have to admit though I'm still excited to see what they do with the smex in Breaking Dawn. I hate Bella because she's a poor example for young girls. She's constantly apologizing and too weak. I know she gets stronger later, but she needed to be strong earlier. She could live without Edward. I've always believed a girl CAN live without a boy. That girl has got to know herself before she can know anyone else.... Yeah, Taylor Lautner is fiiiiiine... but very young men aren't where it's at for women like us. I find myself attracted to men a few years older than I am and expected to find a man that was older to settle down with, but James is only a year older than I.. and I'm ok with that. He's got the maturity level I need so it's perfect. It sounds like we're both married to amazing men! He always insists that everything I do (although I cannot yet contribute financially since I'm an immigrant) is important and that he'd 'forget to feed the animals' if I wasn't here. heh. You're right though. I try to make things as stress free as possible for him whenever I can. He gets free rein of the TV when he's home; the PS3, whatever he wants to do we do. <3 He gets 4 days off a month and I figure they should be a good 4 days! I don't really have a thing for famous people. I tend to like the people that I can touch. Huge stars are just... well, they're just out of reach and even though I have people I admire and drool over, I prefer to really appreciate those who I can have a teeny bit in common with. Like Troy is a geek and loves his video games. Me too! I can go to a con and see him and tell him how awesome I think he is - in fact, I'm gonna in like 20 days! YAAAAAY! Another example... I was a huge fan of Paul Gross (Benton Fraser from Due South en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Due_south) I wrote him a fan letter when I was a little girl, asking him a question about this scene: I must have been like...... 14 or something, but I was so in love with him! XD Anyway, he wrote me back a little note on his stationary along with an autographed picture... and I was his for life. I adore him to this day... but it only was because he reached out to me. <3 *wipes happy tear* XD I'd like to meet HIM one day too! Maybe I'll get a chance. There was a Due South convention this year, but of course I had to miss it. Next year maybe!! I do love him oh so much. AND he's Canadian. That's always a bonus. As for Troy, of course his voice makes me all melty too. I'm not fond of English dubs, but I've said it once and I'll say it again.. if it has Troy in it, I'll check it out at the very least. You'll get to meet him one day I'm sure!! P.S. - Hausfraus FTW!
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Post by dyzzispell on Sept 5, 2010 17:00:31 GMT -6
AllyKat - Yeah, I don't go to comic book shops unless it's with my husband. I feel so weird. With my luck, I usually walk in on one of those game nights some places have and I feel so out of place that I can't stand it. ;D You got more guts than me. And most of my friends growing up were guys too. Problem was, too often they misinterpreted my friendliness and couldn't stay just friends. THAT was annoying. What's it like growing up in a town where everyone knows each other? Here in NJ, no one knows anyone for the most part. People.... well, they aren't terribly nice or friendly overall in NJ/NY. If you walked past someone in a park and said hi, you might get shot a dirty look in return... As for the webcam thing - we don't always have to use the cam anyway. I haven't tried the Stickam thing (I follow Kyle on FB so I see him talking about it a lot, too) because the whole "Live streaming" thing freaks me out a little. With my luck, I'll mess up a setting so that people can watch me all the time, even when I don't want them to... AvyQuinn - Yeah I don't know what happened that girls have no self-respect, other than copying what they see Hollywood starlets doing. It's so horribly sad. But then, I seemed to have this fear of abandonment as a teen, so I'd do whatever it took to keep a guy close. Needless to say, I made some poor decisions. I have no idea where that fear came from though. I mean, no one ever.... oh, wait. I DID mention most of my best friends moving away or finding someone else they liked better, didn't I? ;D Yeah, maybe that explains it. I don't get the "sexting" thing either. Even if it existed back then, I wouldn't be sending stuff like that! But then, I've always been rather modest and shy. I barely even talked to people. If I'd never taken my best friend at the time with me to the roller rink, I never would have met the group that led me to my husband. She was the outgoing one - she told me she was upset that the guys there talked to her so they could get to me... And about older men - Mike is about 3 1/2 years older than me so I know what you mean. Our story's a cute one, I'll have to tell you about it sometime. I will say that I never expected to date him, let alone marry him. I (mistakenly) believed he was the opposite of everything I thought I'd fall for. As for liking huge stars - well I could care less about the mainstream. No interest in the likes of Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise, and all the Hollywood usuals. I do have dreams that I'm part of shows that I watch too often, though. I've dreamed that Dr. House was my doctor, that I was part of the NCIS team, that I worked with the FBI in White Collar, and I've even dreamed of anime characters. One time I dreamed that I was at a wedding with Inuyasha, Kenshin, and a couple of others I can't remember. Inuyasha was sulking about something and Kenshin was on the alert for enemies or something. It was funny. I also dreamed so far that I got to meet Vic Mignogna and Troy, but they were all innocent dreams, if you know what I mean. Anyway, you guys are awesome. I'm glad we all found each other. But why do we have to live so far away from each other??
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Post by Kyashi on Sept 5, 2010 18:12:05 GMT -6
Oh, you girls are having such a cute conversation, I feel like I shouldn't intrude.... You can ignore me if I'm intruding, I guess! ;D
I'm not married, never have been, not likely ever going to be, so I can't relate to that part, but I'm around your ages (I'm 34). And, I really don't get out much, LOL! That's an understatement, btw. I have had chronic health issue for many years now, so I have to live with my parents and I don't work. Can't quite lead a normal life, but I'm just saying this is why I can relate to being a hermit, despite not being a hausfrau...
I have some really amazing girlfriends that I made back when my health was normal and I was in college. But, I'm sure it's just everyone's getting older, and our lives are a-changing, because I really don't physically SEE them anymore. Haven't for a few years now. They get married, move away, etc. My closest girlfriends are mostly nearby me, but they're busy living their lives, and such, and another one just moved to another state. (She tried to get married, but it didn't work out...) I keep up with them on Facebook, though!
I love that you all are NOT into Twilight... This pleases me much! ;D Or, that you, at least, don't think it is the best thing since sliced bread. I truly, truly, truly despise what little I've read of it, and what I know of Stephenie Meyer. I haven't seen a single film, and refuse to. I mostly hate Twilight because Meyer is a hack who doesn't deserve all the ridicilous praise for writing a boring, pedantic, piece of garbage, novice novel series like this. I couldn't finish reading it because I grew so bored, and was sick of Bella thinking Edward was so "perfect." Really? Really, Meyer? You really like "perfection" THAT much? Are you a 13-year-girl, or something?? Seriously...
There's plenty more to say about how BADLY I want everyone to forget that this series exists, enough to try to invent the memory-wiping gizmo from Men In Black, but I won't. I'll just tell everyone here to GO READ "THE HUNGER GAMES" by Suzanne Collins!!! SOOOOO much better, so amazing, riveting, great characters, etc. You'll forget Twilight exists after reading these books...
You guys are so sweet and I feel like I've found some real people I can relate to over here. I'm happy Troy's fans aren't all under-aged girls who want to "get-it-on-with-teacher." No offense to those who are! You are awesome, too, since you make up the majority, after all. I'm just so happy to find solace in some fans who are my age, too...
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Post by dyzzispell on Sept 5, 2010 19:07:13 GMT -6
No, Kyashi, don't feel like you're intruding! Not at all! ;D You are welcome to join in. I'm also quite glad not to feel so alone in my age bracket. It's not often I find people I can actually chat with in forums. It seems like all the ones I've joined, I feel like I'm on the outside of the circle and everyone ignores me. But here, I really feel like I'm part of a little group. I like the fact that this forum is so small. I mean, not for Troy's sake - for him I hope it grows in leaps and bounds! But for us, I like it being so few - it's a little less impersonal and we can really all have fun getting to know each other. I don't HATE Twilight. I'm kind of indifferent. I do hate the crazy fandom that goes with it though. And I especially hate the vampire fascination. I just don't get it. I've never been interested in vampires and I'm still not. (Although I'll give Vampire Knight a shot for two reasons unrelated to vampires - one being the voice actors and two being the bishies. I need to learn how to draw bishies better.) ;D But yeah, Bella did get pretty annoying throughout the series. I don't know how I put up with it, to be honest. Now that I think about it, the characters were actually pretty shallow and undeveloped. How did I miss all of that?? My husband's cousin that I mentioned earlier in the thread - she's into the Hunger Games and recommended them, too. I haven't read them. I think she said they're going to be movies too. She's worried though, because if they end up like The Last Airbender...
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Post by avyquinn on Sept 5, 2010 19:21:06 GMT -6
I only go to the comic book store because my husband likes to show me off to all the unmarried (most likely virgin regulars) XD Their selection of manga is the pits, and I'm not a fan of western comics in the least. My husband is a comic book fanatic... but I am not. lol I like hanging out with guys too, Ally. Although apparently I'm good at alienating both sexes with my .... liberal .... attitudes about most things. That and I have a big mouth. I like to prefer to think my honesty is charming but I'm not blind to my tendencies to say too much. Everyone has made mistakes in the past! I've made my own and I was very lucky that none of them were permanently life altering. But that's how we learn. I just wish that the girls today would take a little advice... when someone tells you something is going to come back to bite you in the ass... maybe it's wise to listen...? I don't know.. call me crazy. I'm jealous of all your dreaming! I never remember any of the good ones although I know I had some doozies involving a certain blond hero 'round the time I was putting in 8 hour FF13 days. >.>;;; Other than those I usually have awesome post-apocalyptic dreams. I haven't had any recent dreams involving any animes and definitely none about Troy or Vic.... Too bad yours were so innocent. .... or WERE they? >.>; There is no such thing as intruding on a message board, Kyashi! I'm excited to get to know everyone a little better!!! Just expect long ass posts! XD I'm sorry to hear about your health woes. That sucks major. :/ I hope there is an end to your health problems in the very near future! Yeah, I'm totally on board with all the negative stuff about Twilight. It's overrated and overhyped. The books are really terrible and I was almost ashamed to admit I was reading them tbh. I was thinking about reading the Charlaine Harris True Blood line... but I'm not huge on books at the moment. I suppose I should get out of that though. But I like your suggestions, Kyashi. I may read that series you suggested in this thread. I'll never forget that manga you said we should read. SO GOOD! So I am convinced you must have good taste!! Now this 'get-it-on-with-teacher' bit ... I don't know what that means... but I assume it has something to do with the fangirls who fawn over the actor in question and couldn't be trusted to be alone in a room with him....? I'm sure there are more than a few of those though. lol I'm gonna have to start directly quoting from y'alls posts to remember all the stuff I wanna reply to!! XD XD
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Post by dyzzispell on Sept 5, 2010 19:57:34 GMT -6
Avy - comic book stores? Same here. I have no use for Western comics either. But some stores do have small manga sections. My husband used to be really big into comics, and has a few boxes of them somewhere, but he doesn't really go to the comic store for himself anymore. Usually it's at Christmas to get gifts for his friends. Regarding the "innocent" dreams? Yeah, they actually were. But if I said I was disappointed, then wouldn't I be one of the "get-it-on-with-teacher" types? However, I didn't say the other dreams were innocent...
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